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Busy vs. Productive

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How many of you are good with time management? If you are, please help a girl out because moving further away from work has made me realize that I am not as great with time management as I had thought. Now that there are days spent 10 hrs away from home, with 2 of those hours in the car each day, it is vital that my time is not squandered. I don’t know about you, but when time slips away from me and nothing gets done, it leaves me feeling stressed and like a failure in some sense. In addition to working, there is blogging, events, friends and the normal demands of life that come in the way. Below, I’ve created a list of 10 things that can improve how my time is spent.

  1. Plan Outfits: You know those mornings when you don’t have an outfit planned and then you’re rushing around like a crazy person, trying on outfits and still cannot find anything to wear despite a full closet? Yeah, that was me every day last week.
  2. Plan Posts: I am pretty much the worst when it comes to scheduling blog and social media posts. Mainly, because my creativity is peaked at random moments, but I plan to get better at this!
  3. Limit/plan the time spent on Social Media. This is a bit difficult being a blogger and constantly being on social media. That does not mean it isn’t possible. There are so many apps that track your social media time and how often you open your phone.
  4. Have down time. Kind of strange when we’re talking about spending time wisely. Hear me out. A break from life allows you to reset, your brain to be free from distractions, ultimately letting those creative and innovative juices flow.
  5. Meal Prep. I am so bad at this but, I am working on it! If you have quick, healthy, recipes let me know!
  6. Plan out workouts for the week. The app that I use is Nike Training Club and they have tons of workouts and you can even set up a customizable plan.
  7. Have a calendar with events. Whether it is your phone or another planner, be sure to plan out events so that you know what you have coming up.
  8. Use travel time to learn: Podcasts, NPR, and audiobooks are life! As nerdy as they sound, they are life savers for people who have long commutes!
  9. Beautify yourself! If your skin is just feeling terrible but you’ve got so much to do, that means, it’s MASK TIME. Wearing a mask while doing laundry or housework kills two birds with one stone!
  10. Live in the moment! Be aware of your surroundings and continue to journey along!

Let me know if you try any of these tips and tricks for maximizing your time!

Dress: Chicwish

Bag: Kate Spade

Boots: Missguided

Sunglasses: NORA NYC

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Women Empowerment: Love a Human Project

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In many cultures all throughout history, women were in competition with each other. They were in competition with each other for getting a man. This is because they did not have the opportunities we have today to be contributors of society. Their main roles were to produce children. Sometimes the only way to “move up” was to marry wealthy. Some women were taught to stay quiet for having ideas was frowned upon. In many cultures, women were to solely take care of household items.

Now more than ever, women have the ability to do and be whatever they’d like to be. While we still have a long way to go, and not all countries are at the same point, it is important for us to learn to lift each other up. Now there is healthy competition and unhealthy competition. When we get jealous of others or gossip about one another, it brings the entire gender of women down. Instead, we should lift one another up by supporting each other and helping one another within the struggles of life. When we get to know others without judgement, we learn more about the world, our surroundings, and can relate with people on a deeper level, connecting us in ways that we could never imagine! For my entire life, I always had friends that were different from me. Whether it was race, religion, style, background, class etc. However, I loved having so many friends from different “cliques.” Having so many friends from different groups made it difficult during adolescence because people naturally segregated themselves into groups. (continued below)

Left to Right: Shanell, Katie, Ashley, Vanessa, Sarah

Left to Right: Allison, Crystal, Vanessa

 

I wanted to start a project called the #LoveAHuman project. I got many of my friends together, some knew each other and some did not. I wanted to see what it was like to have people from contrastive lives and backgrounds come together. Needless to say, these women are all incredible and they PROVED that you can have unique upbringings and lifestyles, yet still learn to love someone different from you! My challenge to you is to get to know someone you may not typically hang out with or get to know! You never know what happens when you #LoveAHuman

For the wonderful photographer and women in this shoot, see below.

Photography: Paige Forden Photo

Each and every one of these women is absolutely incredible! Below are all their Instagram links!

From Left to Right: Yulia, Katie, Allison, Hannah, BK, Ansu, Shanell, Me (Vanessa), Ashley, Raeann, Sarah, Whitney, Crystal

Left to Right: Ansu, Sarah, Whitney, Me

Crystal and BK

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BARHOOM BRANDS: A New Way of Shopping

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How many of you hate shopping, or simply just do not have the time? You want to look great, but do not know where to begin? You want to stay modest, but that means trading in fashion.

If you relate with any of these, I get it! YOU GUYS! This is why I’m SO EXCITED for this post!

Let me introduce you to BARHOOM BRANDS!

Barhoom Brands is a clothing company started by two women who wanted to dress modest and trendy. They realized that people do not have time for themselves. Whether you’re a student, mother, career woman, wife etc. it’s important to have a comfortable wardrobe that is conducive for your day to day life, and Barhoom Brands does just that.

It is a monthly subscription styling service and below is how it works!

First, you’ll take a questionnaire to help the stylists figure out your preferences when it comes to patterns, styles, colors, and fit.

Then, a stylist team will start to work on your bag picking items to compliment your lifestyle and style. The $10 upfront is for the styling service. For your first styling, I’ve got the coupon code of VANESSA10

The bag is shipped to you. You can try on the clothing, keep what you like, and send back the rest! After 30 days you’ll be charged for the clothing you keep!

When I did the questionnaire, I specified that I like prints, bold colors and tops that are more loose. Below were the items in my Barhoom Bag.

 

Top and skirt are from Barhoom Brands.

 

This dress is so comfortable you all! I styled it with a purse and belt that are my own.

This Barhoom Brands skirt is easy to pair with anything!

This Barhoom Brands top is so fun that it can be worn by itself or with a bag and a vest.

Barhoom Brands is such a great service and if you would like to get styled for free, use code VANESSA10

I cannot wait to see what you all get in your Barhoom Box! Tag me and Barhoom Brands in your photos on Instagram so that we can see your style!

Photography by @paigefordenphoto and by @zoeygracephotography

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My Story is HIStory: How My Life was Wrecked and Made New

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Hello everyone,

Today’s blog post is a little different from the norm. This is me, fully opening up about what my secret struggles were the past 1.5- 2 years of my life. I promised God that I would consecrate this blog to Him, (That will be explained in a later post) setting aside all my fears and putting all my faith and trust in Him. His will be done. So, here it is, my story and how it is a part of HIStory.

Pornography. Nonchalantly embedded into our society as though we were talking Friday night dinner plans.

Well, here is my story about how pornography and the spirit of perversion turned me into a walking grave.

I grew up in a Christian home with loving parents and the best family you could ask for. I always went to church with my family, and “gave” my life to Christ when I was 4 years old. Since I can remember, I was a pretty jolly kid with a love for fashion, singing/music, electricity, and math. I would always wonder how the TV turned on, or the lights. I stole my sisters karaoke machine that she got for Christmas and would always use it to jam out to Stacie Orrico. My favorite music has always been worship music! I also created little magazines and my own fashion illustrations.

Fast forward and I am an adult. Specifically, 23 years old. My lifestyle is just like any normal 23 year old just out of college. Learning how to adult/figure out who I am/my purpose in life. If I am being completely honest, I do not remember exactly when or how I started watching porn, I’m pretty sure it was just out of curiosity wondering what could be the hype? If it is so common in society, it obviously cannot be that bad. I mean, I remember it being discussed in episodes of some of my favorite TV shows that I watched, so clearly it was NBD. Although, I do not remember the exact date/time/”first porno” etc. I do remember having a continuous weird ache in my pit and heavy shoulders.

Life continues, and I remember watching it about once a month, a few times a month, to weekly, to almost daily, to the point where sometimes I had to watch it in order to fall asleep. The spirit of perversion had come upon my life and tormented me in every aspect of my life. It consumed many hours. I kept thinking that my sole purpose in life was to be a slave. A slave to porn. A slave to this spirit. I viewed myself as a sex slave, and started to accept it. The weirdest thing is, I could hear, physically hear whispers, of the spirit say to me things like “you’re a sex slave”, “you must find someone to please”, “you were made solely for the pleasure of men, that is what you are worth.” It was so audible and clear, that I had given up things I really wanted in life to porn. These lies manifested themselves into every.single.aspect of my life. I would try to open my computer to blog and the demon would say “you cannot be a blogger.”  “You really think people are going to listen to you?” “You can’t be a leader.” “What person wants a leader full of secretive filth?” “You’re addicted to porn, so you need to fix that first.” The list goes on and on. I would try distracting myself by working out, or going out to eat, shopping, therapy, reading, literally everything. I tried it. I did. I kept going to the doctor because there was a pain in me. Every time I would try to worship, I would just go into tears. That spirit would tell me, “why are you trying to worship? You’re not worthy of that.” So I stopped listening to worship music. I then, became very depressed, cynical, jealous, and evil. I was jolly in public, and around my family, but when I came home to the solitude of my apartment, the thoughts would continue to germinate, crumbling my mind, soul and spirit. Then, the unbelievable happened. My brother’s best friend passed away due to cancer. I. Was. Pissed! I cursed God. And I cursed Him a lot. That friend was a good person. A man after God’s heart, and I was not. Really God? You couldn’t take me instead? I was the worthless one. That was the last straw, and I rebelled even more down the path of self destruction, continuing to be happy on the outside, but completely lifeless on the inside. I was a walking grave, thinking I was fooling the world, as my soul was withering away. Sin and the grave were boasting at how they had taken over my heart. This pit demon had its cloud of darkness suffocating me.

Winter break for my siblings rolls around, and everyone is home. I’ve missed my siblings and family. They were the only reason I kept going at this point. We were all sitting in the family room one afternoon and one of my sisters kept talking about this Recess thing. Recess this! Recess that! I love Jesus! blah blah blah. SU. Literally, she would not shut up about it. All winter break, all I heard was Recess Recess Recess.

Winter break ends, and my siblings all return back to their lives. As I am scrolling through Instagram, my sister mentions something with that Recess thing. I go to their Instagram page and realize the next “Recess” gathering is coming up. I realize that all of the spots are full so I email the coordinator asking if any spots open up. She says they are all full. I am not surprised. Of course this is just another disappointment.

I kid you not, about 10 minutes later the director emails me saying a spot opened up. I sign up right away and wonder what on earth I just signed up for.

A few weeks later, is the night of the conference. The first night, we spoke about wells and how we need to dive deep into what God has for us. Everything from that night was powerful, yet I was still broken. The next day of the conference, our group goes to Chick-Fil-A with some of the Houston girls. I see a girl across the way and in my mind I say “If that girl realizes what I am going through, then I will discuss it.” That night we continued to talk about our wells and how to seek Jesus. I went home sad because this secret was still with me. The last night of the conference, I have no idea what is in store for me. We learn about the different ways Satan enters our lives and what repentance really means. Then, we are told to break into groups. I see the girl from Chick-Fil-A going to the back. I stay in my seat. I’m not trying to be with that girl. Next thing you know, she starts moving to the front group. I get up, keep my head down, and walk to the back group. Then, of course, the girl from Chick-Fil-A turns around and sees me in the back group and comes to the back group. Fan-tastic! So we start praying, we pray for one girl and as we start praying for her I start sobbing, uncontrollably. When you’re in prayer circles you typically reach out a hand towards the person being prayed for. I felt so unworthy to pray for her in that moment. My hand wanted to reach out to pray for her, but I kept pulling it back. I did not want this evil to consume her too. We finish praying for her. There is a slight pause in the midst of my snorting weeping. The girl I was trying to avoid, says, “I am sensing the spirit of perversion over here.” She is sitting next to me and I raise my hand and continue to weep. I stammer about my past few years and how this spirit has consumed me. The group all lay their hands on me and start to pray for me. Then the girl prays something along the lines of “in the name of Jesus, spirit of perversion, you leave this child of God.” I open my eyes and say “in the name of Jesus, spirit of perversion, you leave me in the the name of Jesus.” As soon as I say that, I feel, literally feel the pit lift out of my stomach to the top of my head and out of my body. The pit is no longer there, and that huge weight is gone. I feel new, and the other girls in my group (if you ever meet them) say I looked new.

Now I’m a walking garden. Full of life, full of joy, full of light, all through the powerful name of Jesus Christ.  The blog has relaunched, and this worship song “What A Beautiful Name” by Hillsong Worship is my current JAM!

Bridge Lyrics for “What A Beautiful Name” by Hillsong Worship

Death could not hold You, the veil torn before You
You silenced the boast, of sin and grave
The heavens are roaring, the praise of Your glory
For You are raised to life again

You have no rival, You have no equal
Now and forever, Our God reigns
Yours is the Kingdom, Yours is the glory
Yours is the Name, above all names

What a powerful Name it is
What a powerful Name it is
The Name of Jesus Christ my King

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COACH

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Since I can remember, I’ve always had a love for fashion and styling. Growing up I was teased and made fun of for the clothes/outfits I used to style and wear. Or for the clothes I tried to alter into something I liked. For all too long, I held back from diving into the fashion world because I kept listening to the voices of others instead of listening to my own. Around 20 years of age, I received my first Coach bag and decided to learn more about fashion on my own. I was finally able to afford a Coach bag after graduating and getting my first big girl job! Today the surreal has happened, and I have officially partnered up with Coach as one of their influencers for their 75th year anniversary and celebration! This bag is from their saddle bag collection and it is a bag that I use daily because I am pretty simple when it come to purses/bags. I need a bag that can be a cross body so that I do not have to hold it. (wow that sounded super weak)
Photography by Art of Her Photography

Photography by Art of Her 

Saddle Bag: Coach

 

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Fashion Inspired by my Favorite Foods

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Hello lovelies! I have been MIA because I’ve been preparing for this post! Ha let me be honest. Not at ALL. Life happens BUT, today I wanted to tie in two of my favorite things as a celebration of my birthday! FASHION AND FOOD! As y’all know I freaking LOVE food, like LOOOOVVVVEEEEE (we’re married) it and so I thought “why not create outfits based on my favorite foods?” And BAM!!!!! Mic drop, ’cause I finally had a new blog post idea. So here it is, a list of my favorite foods and the outfits I created around them. So, even though I posted (on Instagram) a nice picture of myself in a nice dress, looking all classy, do not be fooled, cause there is no class with what I’m about to indulge in today and I DON’T CARE! What I am actually doing right now, is wearing that “classy” dress while messily stuffing my face with all this deliciousness that you’re gonna read about AAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH! Now THAT is what I call a birthday celebration!
FIRST STOP/food fave: LASAGNA (from anywhere as long as it’s good)
My favorite lasagna was from Florence Italy at a place called Gallery, which is right across from the night club Red Garter. If you ever visit Florence YOU MUST GO! Ever since, I’ve been craving it but American lasagna will do.
The camel represents the lasagna pasta sheets and the meat (yes meat) the red is the sauce. That’s it. I’m eating lasagna.
SECOND STOP: TACOS!
I like my tacos like my faux furs. Soft.
Fun fact! Did you know I live at Torchey’s? Nah, jk but I wish, ’cause then I could eat there for free. I am so sad that Moon Tower closed ’cause their tacos were off the charts, outta this world, off the grid. I’m so sad. Maybe if we share this post enough, we can bring them back to life! #ripmoontower
Whoever came up with the idea of TACO TUESDAY. I love you. This outfit post goes out to you.
THIRD STOP: SHELLFISH Ocean Prime and Red Lobster
I’m allergic to fish. The swimming kind. But you bet I will eat the meat outta some crustaceans! GIRL/BOY have you ever BEEN to Red Lobster? Oh you have, well have you HAD their LOBSTER PIZZA (crap I forgot about pizza!-HOW?) Well, that Lobster pizza might be the next best thing after Jesus’ birth so if y’all have not tried it. Go give it a try.
Ocean PRIME! You are so bomb and I love that you do all the hard work so I can just eat the crab/lobster meat. Thank you, from the bottom of my heart!
The red leather jacket represents that hard shell that you have to crack open. My black and white striped dress is that crap/lobster meat, and the blue shoes because, well, they come from the ocean!
4TH STOP: DESSERT- MRS. FIELDS CHOCOLATE CHIP COOKIES
LET ME TELLLL YOU, Chocolate Chip Cookies are my weakness. I don’t do heights but if you tell me there’s a cookie at the bottom of a cliff….. well BYE ’cause I’m jumpin’! If you say to me go curse out your ex, I’ll do it for a gift card to Mrs. Fields. And trust me he won’t pull crap like that again. You tell me to rob a bank ….. ok too far. You get it, I LOVE CHOCOLATE CHIP COOKIES. For my 23rd birthday I got a giant cookie cake (from Mrs Fields of course) with a #MERMAID on it! #cookiegoals
 
Well these are my food inspired birthday outfits and I think I will make this an annual thing because it was so fun and I realized I missed a lot more of my favorite foods.
Bye!!!
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